Understanding each another

Understanding each other ties in nicely with trust and communication. As trust and communication are the root of understanding each other. It is actually a common complaint by a broken relationship to state “they don’t understand me anymore”. Quite like a pubescent teenager really.
Understanding how the other partner perceives things will help you both know how to approach situations and how to act or react to others.
This is a very useful tool to use in an argument with your partner. Next time you are having an argument. Instead of an exchange of insults. Trying to up the notch with each reply until each of you get hurt and upset. Try listening. Each of you. Even if you are forcefully biting your tongue to start with. Listen. Try to hear what the other is saying. Wait until they have finished or it is your turn to talk. You don’t have to agree with the other person. But you can try to understand their feelings and their point of view. Then simply reply with. “I understand your view. I understand why you feel this way. But this is how I feel. This is my point of view”.
If you use this instead of a huge heated exchange of insults. Or where one is constantly trying to overpower the other. You will not only get your feelings across. But you will both have a better understanding of how each other’s minds work. And how different things and situations effect people in different ways. It is always better to understand why someone is feeling they way they are before heading straight in for the attack.
This even works for discussions that aren’t involving an argument. Getting your point across by listening and communicating so you can let them understand your feelings is a lot better for your relationship than it all being one sided. The person with the loudest voice.
If couples learnt how to give what the other is needing, wanting or desiring at that particular moment in time, they will be more likely to give it to them than have a heated debate over a simple misunderstanding. No partner in a good relationship wants to see their partner suffer.
Tell each other how you feel.
Tell each other what you would like.
Talk, listen, communicate and try to understand each other.
If you can do this. Then you will be well on your way to have a happy, long, loving and beautiful relationship.

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