Understanding each another

Understanding each other ties in nicely with trust and communication. As trust and communication are the root of understanding each other. It is actually a common complaint by a broken relationship to state “they don’t understand me anymore”. Quite like a pubescent teenager really.
Understanding how the other partner perceives things will help you both know how to approach situations and how to act or react to others.
This is a very useful tool to use in an argument with your partner. Next time you are having an argument. Instead of an exchange of insults. Trying to up the notch with each reply until each of you get hurt and upset. Try listening. Each of you. Even if you are forcefully biting your tongue to start with. Listen. Try to hear what the other is saying. Wait until they have finished or it is your turn to talk. You don’t have to agree with the other person. But you can try to understand their feelings and their point of view. Then simply reply with. “I understand your view. I understand why you feel this way. But this is how I feel. This is my point of view”.
If you use this instead of a huge heated exchange of insults. Or where one is constantly trying to overpower the other. You will not only get your feelings across. But you will both have a better understanding of how each other’s minds work. And how different things and situations effect people in different ways. It is always better to understand why someone is feeling they way they are before heading straight in for the attack.
This even works for discussions that aren’t involving an argument. Getting your point across by listening and communicating so you can let them understand your feelings is a lot better for your relationship than it all being one sided. The person with the loudest voice.
If couples learnt how to give what the other is needing, wanting or desiring at that particular moment in time, they will be more likely to give it to them than have a heated debate over a simple misunderstanding. No partner in a good relationship wants to see their partner suffer.
Tell each other how you feel.
Tell each other what you would like.
Talk, listen, communicate and try to understand each other.
If you can do this. Then you will be well on your way to have a happy, long, loving and beautiful relationship.

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Communication is a two way street

What are we without communication? Communication is for me one of the foundations to any relationship, for without communication there are just two people living in a space. Not two people sharing their love feelings and affection with one another.
From the beginning of the human race we have learned to communicate. Whether it be from a different pitched grunt to being fluent in a wide array of languages.
We as human species cannot develop nor can we survive with others without the basics of communication.
What more in a relationship.
Without it how will each of you know your thoughts, your dreams, your problems, your feelings.
In a relationship there is always the need for communication. And by this I don’t mean that from the time you wake to the moment you sleep you should be in constant conversation. As that is an impossibility. You would soon either run out of things to say or just annoy the other too much.
But both partners should know how to express their thoughts, their feelings, their fears and insecurities. Not only does this help your partner understand the issues or events at hand. But they will have a better understanding of you. Of each other. Biting your tongue and bottling things up will only lead to outbursts. Small issues becoming huge arguments as it’s just built up and built up as the day and weeks pass by.
If the communication between you is strong and healthy, you will also learn what annoys the other. What makes them happy. What turns them on…. And off.
The communication barrier between partners is one of the key factors to a relationship. If you have this. Then you will be able to understand one and other with out feeling they are not listening or paying attention. Or that they even care enough to fix the problem instead of just agreeing and accepting everything. Couples will argue. If they don’t. Then there is no two way communication. Remember, communication is two way. Not 1. It is just as important to listen as it is to speak.