Commitment in a relationship

So where would any relationship be without commitment? Nowhere. Without this then why bother?
When you are with your loved one you want to know that they are in it for the long run. You want to feel safe and secure in the knowledge that you are their one and their only, and nothing will ever change that for them.
Commitment doesn’t just mean being faithful. (Although of course they do have to be faithful). It also means they are committed enough to the relationship to make it work no matter what. To stand by you though the toughest of times. Nurse you when you’re at your sickest. As the famous lines say. In sickness and in health. For better for worse. For richer and poorer.
I know I know. You’ve heard those lines a million times before. But. If you don’t understand. Or adhere to those wise words. Then you can’t be as committed as you think.
All partners want security. And knowing that no matter what lays ahead of you in your futures together, you both will be committed enough to one another to be each others strength. Be the strength when they’re weak. Be the helper when they are too sick to help themselves. Support them when they need support. The shoulder they need to cry on. And the ear to release their worries to. Because you should know. That if it was the other way around. They would do it all for you without question.

Communication is a two way street

What are we without communication? Communication is for me one of the foundations to any relationship, for without communication there are just two people living in a space. Not two people sharing their love feelings and affection with one another.
From the beginning of the human race we have learned to communicate. Whether it be from a different pitched grunt to being fluent in a wide array of languages.
We as human species cannot develop nor can we survive with others without the basics of communication.
What more in a relationship.
Without it how will each of you know your thoughts, your dreams, your problems, your feelings.
In a relationship there is always the need for communication. And by this I don’t mean that from the time you wake to the moment you sleep you should be in constant conversation. As that is an impossibility. You would soon either run out of things to say or just annoy the other too much.
But both partners should know how to express their thoughts, their feelings, their fears and insecurities. Not only does this help your partner understand the issues or events at hand. But they will have a better understanding of you. Of each other. Biting your tongue and bottling things up will only lead to outbursts. Small issues becoming huge arguments as it’s just built up and built up as the day and weeks pass by.
If the communication between you is strong and healthy, you will also learn what annoys the other. What makes them happy. What turns them on…. And off.
The communication barrier between partners is one of the key factors to a relationship. If you have this. Then you will be able to understand one and other with out feeling they are not listening or paying attention. Or that they even care enough to fix the problem instead of just agreeing and accepting everything. Couples will argue. If they don’t. Then there is no two way communication. Remember, communication is two way. Not 1. It is just as important to listen as it is to speak.

Trust in a Relationship

Trust is of course a major part in a relationship. It is putting yourself up to vulnerability, a feeling that many see as a weakness, but in a relationship, is what makes you so much stronger.

Putting your trust fully into your partner means that you are saying that you are giving yourself fully, that you are putting your heart in their hands with the hope that they will nurture it and look after it with love. After all that is what it deserves.

Trust is very much like most things in a relationship a ‘Two way street’. Meaning that if you don’t show your partner that you deserve to be trusted then why should they put their heart and their venerability into a lost cause or possible heartache.

A lot of people over look many things as being ‘unfaithful’, and are surprised that they are questioned by their partners over their actions or lack of thought for the other person involved. For example they go out on a night out and don’t invite or bring the other person, maybe the person is always letting the other down with false promises, little lies about certain things that they think is ‘for he best that they don’t know’. All these little things can and will add up even if it is just subconsciously they will have an effect on a lot of people in their relationships.

There are very simple and great ways to gain and give trust in a relationship. things like;

  • Being reliable
  • Being up front and honest
  • Opening up and sharing intimate thoughts with each other
  • Not always saying yes to everything, it’s ok to say no sometimes too you know
  • Doing things and new experiences together
  • Having faith in your partners capabilities
  • Communicate with each other often
  • Trust them, as you want them to trust you, if you both do this then life will be so much sweeter

your partner needs to know that you are truly committed to them and that nothing will ever cause you to hurt them or break their heart and trust in you. Remember that by putting their trust into you is making themselves completely vulnerable, which is not a feeling anyone likes. So by them giving you their trust it is a huge statement and stage in your relationship. So treasure it, and do everything you can to keep the trust between you going.

Keys to a successful relationship

What are the key factors in any relationship? For me, they would be

• Trust
• Communication
• Understanding
• Commitment
• Empathy
• Acceptance

Each day I will take one of these key factors and elaborate on the fundamental necessities of keeping a solid, loving and happy relationship.